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Adolescence: About and For Adolescents 

  • Gordon, Sol. The Teenage Survival Book. Three Rivers Press. 1981.
  • Packer, Alex. Bringing up Parents: The Teenager's Handbook. ReadHowYouWant Press, 2009.
  • Riera, Michael. Surviving High School. Celestial Arts Press. 1997.
  • Riera, Michael. Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers. 3rd edition. Ten Speed Press, 2012.

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Adoption (see also Parenting) 

  • Eldrige, Sherrie. Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew. Delta. 1999.
  • Melina, Lois Ruskai. Raising Adopted Children: Practical Reassuring Advice for Every Adoptive Parent. Collins Living. 1998.
  • Purvis, Karyn B., Cross, David R., Sunshine, Wendy Lyons. The Connected Child: Bring hope and healing to your adoptive family. McGraw-Hill Education. 2007.
  • Van Gulden, Holly, & L Bartels-Rabb. Real Parents, Real Children: Parenting the Adopted Child. Crossroads Publ. 2000. This is a more scholarly work than the other books listed in this category, but very readable and full of good solid information.

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Addiction and Recovery


  • Alcoholics Anonymous: The Story of How Many Thousands of Men and Women have Recovered from Alcoholism. (aka “The Big Book”, by Bob Smith and Bill Wilson.) AA World Series, Inc. 2013.
  • Denning, Patt, J Little, & A Glickman. Over the Influence: The Harm Reduction Guide to Controlling Your Drugs and Alcohol Use.  2nd edition. The Guilford Press. 2017.
  • DiClemente, Carlo. Addiction and Change: How Addictions Develop and Addicted People Recover.  2nd edition. Guilford Press. 2018.
  • Johnson, Vernon. I’ll Quit Tomorrow: A Practical Guide to Alcoholism Treatment. Revised edition. HarperOne. 1990.
  • Knapp, Caroline. Drinking: A Love Story. Dial Press/Bantam Dell. 1997.
  • Milam, James Robert, & K  Ketcham. Under the Influence: A Guide to the Myths and Realities of Alcoholism. Reissue edition. Bantam Publishers. 1988.
  • Pinkham, Mary Ellen. How to Stop the One You Love from Drinking. GP Putnam & Sons. 1986.
  • Prochaska, James, J Norcross, & C DiClementi. Changing for Good: A Revolutionary Six-stage Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward. William Morrow, 2007.
  • Schaefer, Dick. Choices and Consequences: What to Do When a Teenager Uses Alcohol/Drugs. Hazelden Publishing. 1998.
  • Schierse, Leonard, & L Schierse. Witness to the Fire: Creativity and the Veil of Addiction. Shambhala Publications. Reprint edition. 2001.

Adult Children of Alcoholics and Codependence

  • Beattie, Melody. Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. San Francisco: Hazelden. Reprint 2011.
  • Black, Claudia. It Will Never Happen to Me: Growing Up With Addiction as Youngsters, Adolescents, Adults. Hazelden. Reprint. 2002.
  • Cermak, Timmen, & J Rutzky. A Time to Heal Workbook: Stepping-Stones to Recovery for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Putnam/ TarcherPerigee. 1994.
  • Knapp, Caroline. Drinking: A Love Story. Dial Press/Bantam Dell. 1997.
  • Mellody, Pia. Facing Codependence. Harper & Row. 2003.
  • Sommers, Suzanne. Keeping Secrets. Warner Brothers. 1988. A first-person account about being an adult child of an alcoholic.
  • Woititz, Janet Geringer. Adult Children of Alcoholics: Expanded Edition. Health Communications, Inc. 2nd edition. 1990.
  • Woititz, Janet Geringer. Struggle for Intimacy. Health Communications. Revised edition. 1993.

Sexual Addiction

  • Carnes, Patrick. Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. Carnes 2001. 
  • Carnes, Patrick. Don't Call it Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction. Bantam. 1991.

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  • Lerner, Harriett. The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships. HarperPerennial. Reprint. 2014.
  • McClure, Lynne. Angry Men: Managing Anger in an Unforgiving World. Impact Publications. 2003.
  • McKay, Matthew, P  Rogers, & J McKay. When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within. New Harbinger. 2nd edition. 2003.
  • Namie, Gary & Ruth Namie. The Bully at Work: What You Can do to Stop the Hurt and Reclaim Your Dignity on the Job. Sourcebook. 2nd edition. 2009.
  • Paleg, Kim, & M McKay. When Anger Hurts Your Relationship: 10 Simple Solutions for Couples Who Fight. New Harbinger. 2001.
  • Tavris, Carol. Anger: The Misunderstood emotion. Simon and Schuster. 1989.

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  • Bolton, Robert. People Skills: How to Assert Yourself, Listen to Others, and Resolve Conflicts. Simon & Schuster. 1986.
  • Fensterheim, Herbert, and J Baer. Don’t Say Yes When You Want to Say No. Dell. 1975.
  • Gartrell, Nanette. My Answer is No-If That’s Okay with You: How Women Can Say No with Confidence. Atria Books. Reprint edition. 2009.

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Autism/Asperger’s Syndrome (see also Parenting / Relationships)

  • Finch, David. The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man’s Quest to be a Better Husband. Scribner, 2012.
  • Jackson, Luke. Freaks, Geeks & Asperger’s Syndrome: A Users Guide to Adolescence. Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2002.
  • Leventhal-Belfer, Laurie. Asperger’s Syndrome in Young Children: A Developmental Guide for Parents and Professionals. Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2004.
  • Leventhal-Belfer, Laurie. Who Needs Friends? A Guide to the Friends Program, an Intervention Program that Helps Young Children on the Autism / Asperger’s Disorder and their Parents Explore and Expand their Social World. CreateSpace, 2013.
  • McNulty, Kate. Love and Asperger's: Practical Strategies To Help Couples Understand Each Other and Strengthen Their Connection. Rockridge Press, 2020.
  • Tammet, Daniel. Born on a Blue Day. Free Press, 2007.
  • Simsion, Graeme. The Rosie Project: A Novel. Simon & Schuster, 2015.
  • Simone, Rudy. Aspergirls: Empowering Females with Asperger Syndrome. Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2010.

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Bullying in the Workplace

  • Bell, Arthur H. You Can’t Talk to Me That Way! Stopping Toxic Language in the Workplace. Career Press. 2005.
  • Crowley, Katherine, & K Elster. Working with You is Killing Me: Freeing Yourself from Emotional Traps at Work. Hachette Book Group. 2006.
  • Field, Tim. Bully in Sight: How to Predict, Resist, Challenge and Combat Workplace Bullying. Success Unlimited. 1996.
  • Futterman, Susan. When You Work for a Bully: Assessing Your Options and Taking Action. Croce Publishing. 2004.
  • Haden Elgin, Suzette. The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense at Work. Prentice Hall Press. 2000.
  • Lynn, Adele B. In Search of Honor: Lessons from Workers on How to Build Trust. Bajon House Publishing. 1998.
  • Namie, Gary & Ruth Namie. The Bully at Work: What You Can do to Stop the Hurt and Reclaim Your Dignity on the Job. Sourcebooks. 2nd edition. 2009.
  • Sutton, Robert. The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workforce and Surviving One That Isn’t. Hachette Book Group. Reprint. 2010.

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Care Giving

Caring for Aging Parents

  • Berman, Claire. Caring for Yourself While Caring for Your Aging Parents: How to Help, How to Survive. Holt. 3rd edition. 2005.
  • Butler, Karen. Knocking on Heaven’s Door: The Path to a Better Way of Death. Scribner. 2012.
  • Guwande, Atul. Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End. New York: Metropolitan books. 2014.
  • Jacobs, Barry J. The Emotional Survival Guide for Caregivers: Looking After Yourself and Your Family While Helping and Aging Parent. New York: Guilford Press, 2006.
  • Larson, Dale G. The Helper's Journey: Working with People Facing Grief, Loss, and Life-Threatening Illness. Research Press. 1993.
  • Morris, Virginia. How to Care for Aging Parents: A One-stop Resource for All Your Medical, Financial, Housing, and Emotional Issues. Third edition. Workman, 2014.

Living with a Mentally Ill Family Member (See also Schizophrenia)

  • Amador, Xavier. I Am Not Sick I Don’t Need Help: How to Help Someone with Mental Illness Accept Treatment. Vida Press, 2007.
  • Forward, Susan. Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, & Guilt to Manipulate You. Harper. 1998. 
  • Golant, Mitch, & Susan K. Golant. What to Do When Someone You Love is Depressed, 2nd Edition: A Practical, Compassionate, & Helpful Guide. Holt Paperback. 2nd edition. 2007. 
  • Kreisman, Jerold J, & H Straus. I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality Disorder. New Harbinger. 3rd edition. 2018. 
  • Lawson, Christine Ann. Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable & Volatile Relationship. Rowan & Littlefield, 2004. 
  • Mace, Nancy and Peter Rabins. The 36-Hour Day: A Family Guide to Caring for People Who Have Alzheimer Disease, Other Dementias, and Memory Loss. Johns Hopkins University Press, 2017.
  • Mason, Paul T. Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder. New Harbinger. 2nd edition. 2010. 
  • Roth, Kimberlee et al. Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds and Build Trust, Boundaries, & Self Esteem. New Harbinger. 2003. 
  • Sheffield, Anne. Depression Fallout: The Impact of Depression on Couples and What You Can Do to Preserve the Bond. Harper Paperbacks. 2003. 
  • Sheehy, Gail. Passages in Caregiving: Turning chaos into confidence. William Morrow, 2010.
  • Wexler, David B. Is He Depressed or What? What to Do When the Man You Love is Irritable, Moody, and Withdrawn. New Harbinger. 2006.

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Childfree Living: For People Who Do Not Have Children, Either by Choice or Because of Infertility

  • Carroll, Laura. Families of Two. Xlibris, 2000.
  • Carter, Jean and Michael. Sweet Grapes: How to Stop Being Infertile and Start Living Again. Perspectives Press. Expanded edition.1998. Good information on how to cope when you want a child and are unable to have one.
  • Casey, Terri. Pride and Joy: The Lives and Passions of Women Without Children. Atria/ Beyond Words. 2007.
  • Engel, Beverly. The Parenthood Decision: Discovering Whether You Are Ready and Willing to Become a Parent. Main Street Books. 1998.
  • Ireland, Mardy S. Reconceiving Women: Separating Motherhood from Female Identity. Guilford Press. 1993.
  • Senior, Jennifer. All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of modern parenthood. Ecco, 2015.

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  • Pia Melody. Facing Co-Dependence: What it is, Where it Comes From, How it Sabotages our Lives. Harper & Row, 2003.
  • Richard Schwartz. You Are the One You've Been Waiting For: Bringing courageous love to intimate relationships. Center for Self Leadership, 2008.

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Cognitive and Behavioral Therapy

  • Burns, David. Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. Harper. Reprint ed. 2008. 
  • Burns, David. The Feeling Good Handbook. Plume. Revised. 1999. A workbook based on Burns’s Feeling Good book 
  • Seligman, Martin. Learned Optimism. Vintage. Reprint ed. 2006. 
  • Seligman, Martin. The Optimistic Child: A Proven Program to Safeguard Children Against Depression and Build Lifelong Resilience. Mariner. Reprint ed. 2007. 
  • Spradlin, Scott E. Don’t Let Your Emotions Run Your Life: How Dialectical Behavior Therapy Can Put You in Control. New Harbinger. 2003.

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Communication Skills

  • Bolton, Robert. People Skills: How to Assert Yourself, Listen to Others, and Resolve Conflicts. Touchstone. 1986. 
  • Faber, Adele, & Elaine Mazlish. How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk. Scribner. Updated ed. 2012. 
  • McKay, Matthew, Martha Davis, & Patrick Fanning. Messages: The Communication Book. New Harbinger. 3rd edition. 2009. 
  • Patterson, Kerry. Crucial Confrontations: Tools for Resolving Broken Promises, Violated Expectations, and Bad Behavior. McGraw-Hill. 2005. 
  • Patterson, Kerry, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, & Al Switzler. Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High. McGraw-Hill. 2nd ed. 2011. 
  • Rosenberg, Marshall,. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, 3rd Edition: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships. Puddledancer Press. 2015. 
  • Stone, Douglas, Bruce Patton, & Sheila Heen. Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most. Penguin Books. Updated ed. 2010. 
  • Tannen, Deborah. Talking from 9 to 5: Women and Men at Work. William Morrow. Reprint ed. 2001.

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Death and Dying: For Those Facing Their Own Death

  • Kubler Ross, Elizabeth. On Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and their Own Families. Scribner. Reprint ed. 2014. 
  • Kubler Ross, Elizabeth. Questions and Answers on Death and Dying. Quality. 2002. 
  • Ostaseski, Frank. The Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Full. Flatiron Books. 2017.
  • Remen, Rachel Naomi. Kitchen Table Wisdom: Stories that Heal. New York: Riverhead Books. 10th Anniversary ed. 2006. 
  • Rinpoche, Sogyal. The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying. Harper. 20th Anniversary ed. 2012.
  • Shneidman, Edwin. A Commonsense Book of Death: Reflections at Ninety of a Lifelong Thanatologist. Rowman & Littlefield, 2008.

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Domestic Violence

  • Ackerman, Robert. Before It's Too Late: Helping Women in Controlling or Abusive Relationships. Health Communications Inc. 1995. 
  • Enns, Greg, & J Black. It's Not Okay Anymore: Your Personal Guide to Ending Abuse, Taking Charge, and Loving Yourself. New Harbinger. 1997. 
  • Evans, Patricia. The Verbally Abusive Relationship. Adams Publishing. 1992. 
  • Kirshenbaum, Mira. Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Helping You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship. NAL-Dutton. 1996.

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Grief (see also Death and Dying; Care-Giving)

  • Cacciatore, Joanne. Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief. Somerville, MA: Wisdom Publications, 2017.
  • Devine, Megan. It's Ok That You're Not Ok: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture that Doesn't Understand. New York: Sounds True, 2017.
  • Fine, Carla. No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One. Main Street Books/ Harmony. 1999. 
  • Frankl, Viktor L. Man's Search For Meaning. New York: Beacon Press, 1946 (edition 2006).
  • Goulding, Mary. A Time to Say Good-Bye: Moving Beyond Loss. Papier-Mache Press. 1996. For widows and widowers.
  • Grollman, Earl. Talking About Death: A Dialogue Between Parent and Child. Beacon Press. 4th edition. 2011. For parents, to help their children deal with death.
  • Greenspan, Miriam. Healing through the Dark Emotions: The Wisdom of Grief, Fear, and Despair. Shambhala. 2003. 
  • Larson, Dale G. The Helper’s Journey: Working with People Facing Grief, Loss, and Life-Threatening Illness. Research Press. 1993. 
  • McWilliams, Peter, Harold Bloomfield & Melba Colgove. How to Survive the Loss of a Love. Prelude Press. Reprint ed. 2006. 
  • O'Connor, Mary-Frances. The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science Of How We Learn From Love and Loss. New York: HarperOne. 2022.
  • Panagotacos, Vicki. Gaining Traction: Starting over after the death of your life partner. Amazon, 2014.
  • Rando, Therese. How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies. Bantam. 1988. 
  • Staudacher, Carol. Men and Grief. New Harbinger. 1991. 
  • Stern, Ellen Sue. Living with Loss: Meditations for Grieving Widows. Itasca, 2006.
  • Tatelbaum, Judy. The Courage to Grieve: Creative Living, Recovery, and Growth Through Grief. Harper & Row. 1984. 
  • Viorst, Judith. Necessary Losses: The Loves, Illusions, Dependencies, and Impossible Expectations that All of Us have to Give Up in Order to Grow. Simon and Schuster, 1998.
  • Walter, Carolyn. The Loss of a Life Partner: Narratives of the Bereaved. Columbia University Press. 2003.
  • Zenoff, Nisha. The Unspeakable Loss: How Do You Live After a Child Dies? Da Capo Lifelong Books. 2017.

Infertility / Loss of Child (See also Childfree Living; Relationships)

  • Ilse, Sherokee. Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death. Wintergreen Press. 20th Anniversary Revised & Enlarged ed. 2015.

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  • Forward, Susan. Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You. HarperCollins. 1997. 
  • Engel, Lewis, & T Ferguson. Imaginary Crimes: Why We Punish Ourselves and How to Stop. Authors Choice reprint ed. 2004. 
  • Borysenko, Joan. Guilt is the Teacher, Love is the Lesson. Warner Press. 1990.

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  • Grodeck, Brett. The First Year—HIV: An Essential Guide for the Newly Diagnosed. Da Capo, Revised ed. 2007.
  • Ward, Darrell E. The AmFAR AIDS Handbook: The Complete Guide to Understanding HIV and AIDS. New York: WW Norton & Co. 1999.

Chronic Pain

  • Catalano, Ellen M. The Chronic Pain Control Workbook: A Step-By-Step Guide for Coping with Overcoming Pain. New Harbinger. 1996
  • Cohen, Carlene. Turning Suffering Inside Out: A Zen Approach to Living with Physical and Emotional Pain. Shambhala. 2002. With stories, exercises, and an awareness born of long Zen practice, Cohen shows how we can lead a satisfying, even joyful life in the midst of pain
  • Bolen, Jean Shinoda. Close to the Bone: Life-Threatening Illness as a Soul Journey. Conari Press. 10th Anniversary ed. 2007. This book looks at life-threatening illness and chronic pain from a soul perspective: how this journey can lead to a fuller, healthier, more meaningful life
  • Dahl, Joanne, & Tobias Lundgren. Living Beyond Your Pain: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Ease Chronic Pain. New Harbinger. 2006. The emphasis is on accepting and learning to live with pain, and limiting the control it exerts over your life
  • Dillard, James N & Leigh Ann Hirschman. The Chronic Pain Solution: Your Personal Path to Pain Relief. Bantam Dell. Reprint ed. 2003. An educational book which combines the best of Western medicine and gentler alternative therapies
  • Morris, David B. The Culture of Pain. UC California Press. Reprint ed. 1993. In this richly intriguing study Morris gives eloquent voice to the experience of pain as shaped by individual minds and specific cultures, from tortured victims of the Inquisition to the Nazi death camps, the phantom limb pain of amputees and the suffering of victims of arthritis, disability, cancer, and AIDS
  • Price, Reynolds. A Whole New Life: An Illness and a Healing. Scribner. Reprint ed. 2003. Inspirational book written by a man who survives cancer, is paralyzed, and finds meaning in “a whole new life
  • Rosenfeld, Arthur. The Truth About Chronic Pain: Patients and Professionals on How to Face It, Understand It, Overcome It. Basic Books. 2003.
  • Schneider, Jennifer P. Living With Chronic Pain: The Complete Health Guide to the Causes and Treatment of Chronic Pain. Healthy Hatherleigh Press. 2nd ed. 2009.
  • Thorn, Beverly E. Cognitive Therapy for Chronic Pain: A Step-by-Step Guide. Guilford Press. 2nd ed. 2017.
  • Turk, Dennis C, & Frits Winter. The Pain Survival Guide: How to Reclaim Your Life. APA Life Tools Press. 2005. This is a proven 10-step program that shows how gradual behavior changes can lead to great improvements.

Illness and Chronic Illness

  • Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. Bantam. Revised ed. 2013. 
  • Klein, Robert, & Marcia Landau. Healing the Body Betrayed: A Self-Paced, Self Help Guide to Regaining Psychological Control of Your Chronic Illness. Chronimed. 1992. 
  • Selak, Joy & Steven Overman. You Don’t Look Sick: Living Well With Invisible Chronic Illness. Demos Health, 2nd ed. 2012. 
  • Topf, Linda, & H Z Bennett. You are not Your Illness: Seven Principles for Meeting the Challenge of Illness. Touchstone1995. 
  • Wells, Susan Milstrey. A Delicate Balance: Living Successfully with Chronic Illness. Perseus. 2000.


  • Barbach, Lonnie. The Pause: Positive Approaches to Perimenopause and Menopause. Plume. Revised ed. 2000. 
  • Boston Women's Health Book Collective. The New Our Bodies Ourselves. Touchstone. 4th ed. 2005. 
  • Doress-Worsters, Paula, & Diana Siegal. The New Ourselves, Growing Older. Touchstone. 2nd Revised ed. 1994 
  • Greenwood, Sadja. Menopause Naturally: Preparing for the Second Half of Life. Volcano Press. 2nd ed Updated.1996. 
  • Greer, Germaine. The Change: Women, Aging and the Menopause. Knopf. 1992. 
  • Love, Susan. Dr. Susan Love's Menopause and Hormone Book: Making Informed Choices. Harmony. Revised ed. 2003. 
  • Northrup, Christiane. The Wisdom of Menopause: Creating Physical and Emotional Health During the Change. Bantam. Revised ed. 2012. 
  • O'Hanlan, Katherine. Natural Menopause. Da Capo. Revised ed. 1996. 
  • Sheehy, Gail. Silent Passage: Menopause. Gallery Books. 6th ed. 2010. 
  • Wolfe, Honora Lee. Second Spring: A Guide to Healthy Menopause Through Traditional Chinese Medicine. Blue Poppy Press. 1990.

Sleep Health

  • Carney, Colleen E. and Manber, Rachel. Quiet Your Mind and Get to Sleep: Solutions to Insomnia for those with Depression, Anxiety, or Chronic Pain. New Harbinger, 2009.
  • Dement, William. The Promise of Sleep: A Pioneer in Sleep Medicine Explores the Vital Connection Between Health, Happiness, and a Good Night’s Sleep. Dell. 2000.
  • Huffington, Ariana. The Sleep Revolution: Transforming Your Life, One Night at a Time. Harmony. 2017.
  • Stevenson, Shawn. Sleep Smarter: 21 Essential Strategies to Sleep Your Way to a Better Body, Better Health, Bigger Success. Rodale. 2016.
  • U.S. National Library of Medicine. National Health, Lung, and Blood Institute. Healthy Sleep. 2009. Brief guides to healthy sleep and sleep disorders are available at the National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute website.
  • Walker, Matthew. Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams. Simon Schuster. 2017.

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Gay, Lesbian, Coming Out Issues

  • Bass, Ellen, & K Kaufman. Free Your Mind: The Book for Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Youth and Their Allies. HarperPerennial. 1996. 
  • Bernstein, Robert A. Straight Parents, Gay Children: Keeping Families Together. Da Capo. Revised ed. 2003. Written by a P-FLAG parent - Parents and Friends of Gays and Lesbians.
  • Fairchild, Betty, & Nancy Hayward. Now That You Know: A Parents’ Guide to Understanding their Gay and Lesbian Children. Mariner books. 1998. 
  • Johnson, Bret K. Coming Out Every Day: A Gay, Bisexual, and Questioning Man's Guide. New Harbinger. 1998. 
  • Kaufman, Gershen, & L Raphail. Coming Out of Shame:
  • forming Gay and Lesbian Lives. Doubleday. 1996. 
  • Larkin, Joan, ed. A Woman Like That: Lesbian and Bi-sexual Writers Tell Their Coming-Out Stories. Harper Collins. 1999. Anthology of coming-out stories from the 1950’s to the present 
  • McDaniel, Judith. The Lesbian Couples' Guide. Harper Perennial. 1995. Examines issues such as setting boundaries, power, parenting, opening the closet doors, etc 
  • Merla, Patrick, ed. Boys Like Us: Gay Writers Tell Their Coming-Out Stories. Avon Books. 1997. Anthology of coming-out stories from the 1950’s to the present.
  • Marcus, Eric. Is It a Choice? Answers to the Most Frequently Asked Questions About Gay & Lesbian People. HarperOne. Revised ed. 2005. Honest and compassionate answers to 300 of the most frequently asked questions about gays and lesbians.

Transgender Issues

  • Boylan, Jennifer. She’s Not There: A Life in Two Genders. Broadway Books. 2013.
  • Nutt, Amy Elis. Becoming Nicole: The Transformation of an American Family. Random House, 2016.

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Mental Health

ADD, ADHD and Learning Disabilities

  • Barkley, Russell. Taking Charge of ADHD: The Complete, Authoritative Guide for Parents. Guilford Press. 3rd ed. 2013.
  • Hallowell, Edward & John Ratey. Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder. Anchor. Reprint ed. 2011. For adults with ADD and ADHD
  • Nadeau, Kathleen. Understanding Women with AD/HD. Advantage Books. 2002.
  • Solden, Sari. Women with Attention Deficit Disorder: Embracing Your Differences and Transform Your life. Introspect Press. Revised ed. 2012.


  • Bourne, Edmund J. The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook. New Harbinger. 6th ed. 2015.
  • Bourne, Edmund, & Loma Garano. Coping with Anxiety: 10 Simple Ways to Relieve Anxiety, Fear, and Worry. New Harbinger. 2nd ed. 2016.
  • Hanh, Thich Nhat. Creating True Peace: Ending Violence in Yourself, Your Family, Your Community, and the World. Atria Books. Reprint ed. 2004.
  • Isaacs, Mark. Living with Fear: Understanding and Coping with Anxiety. McGraw Hill. Subsequent ed. 2002.
  • Jeffers, Susan. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. Ballantine. 20th Anniversary Ed. 2006. Especially good for career issues.
  • Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life. Hachette. 10th Ed. 2005.
  • Wilson, Reid. Don't Panic: Taking Control of Anxiety Attacks. Harper Perennial. 3rd Ed. 2009.

For children –

  • Huebner, Don. What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s guide to overcoming anxiety. Magination Press, 2006.

Bipolar/Manic Depression

  • Castle, Lana R. Bipolar Demystified: Mastering the Tightrope of Manic Depression. Da Capo Lifelong Books, 2003.
  • Copeland, Mary Ellen. Living Without Depression and Manic Depression: A Workbook for Maintaining Mood Stability. New Harbinger. 1994.
  • Jamison, Kay Redfield. An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness. Knopf. 1995. Autobiography of a psychologist who is diagnosed with Bipolar disorder
  • McDermott, Zack. Gorilla and the Bird: A Memoire of Madness and a Mother’s Love. Little, Brown, 2018.
  • Vien, Enid. Mood Swings. Dynamism Publications. 2nd Ed. 1999.

Borderline Personality Disorder

  • Bill, Eddie and Randy Krieger. Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. New Harbinger Publications, 2011.
  • Forward, Susan. Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You. Harper. 1998.
  • Kreisman, Jerold & Hal Straus. I Hate You—Don’t Leave Me: Understanding The Borderline Personality Disorder. TarcherPerigee. Revised Ed. 2010.
  • Mason Paul. Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About has Borderline Personality Disorder. New Harbinger. 2nd Ed. 2010.
  • Reiland, Rachel. Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Hazelden Press. 2004.


  • Burns, David. Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. Harper. Reprint Ed. 2008. A cognitive-behavioral approach to resolving depression.
  • Burns, David. The Feeling Good Handbook. Plume. Revised Ed. 1999. A workbook based on Burns's Feeling Good book. 
  • Copeland, Mary Ellen. The Depression Workbook: A Guide for Living with Depression and Manic Depression. New Harbinger. 2nd Ed. 2002. 
  • Greenspan, Miriam. Healing through the Dark Emotions: The Wisdom of Grief, Fear, and Despair. Shambhala Publications, Inc. 2003. 
  • Williams, Mark, et al. The Mindful Way Through Depression; Freeing Yourself From Chronic Unhappiness.  NY: Guilford Press. 2007. Some editions include audio CD narrated by Jon Kabat-Zinn.

Eating Disorders

  • Bulik, Cynthia, & N Taylor. Runaway Eating: The 8 Point Plan to Conquer Adult Food and Weight Obsessions. Rodale Press. 2005. 
  • Carlton, Pamela. Take Charge of Your Child’s Eating Disorder: A Physician’s Step-By-Step Guide to Defeating Anorexia and Bulimia. Marlowe & Co. 2007. 
  • Knapp, Caroline. Appetites. New York: Counterpoint. Revised ed. 2011. 
  • Lock, James, & Daniel Le Grange. Help Your Teenager Beat an Eating Disorder. Guilford Press. 2nd Ed. 2015. 
  • Mellin, Laurel. The Solution: 6 Winning Ways to Permanent Weight Loss. HarperCollins. 1997. For people who have trouble controlling their food cravings 
  • Roth, Geneen. When Food is Love: Exploring the Relationship Between Eating and Intimacy. Plume. 1991. 
  • Roth, Geneen. Feeding the Hungry Heart: The Experience of Compulsive Eating. Plume. Reissue Ed. 1993 
  • Zerbe, Kathryn. The Body Betrayed: A Deeper Understanding of Women, Eating Disorders, and Treatment. Gurze Books. 1995.

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (see also Phobias)

  • Baer, Lee. Getting Control: Overcoming Your Obsessions and Compulsions. Plume. Updated edition. 2012. 
  • Rapaport, Judith. The Boy Who Couldn't Stop Washing: The Experience and Treatment of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. EP Dutton. 1989. 
  • Schwartz, Jeffrey M. Brain Lock: Free Yourself From Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior. Harper Perennial. 20th Anniversary Edition. 2016. Highly recommended.
  • Steketee, Fail, & K White. When Once is Not Enough: Help for Obsessive-Compulsives. New Harbinger. 1991.


  • Brown, Duane. Flying without Fear: Effective Strategies to Get You Where You Need to Go. New Harbinger. 2nd Edition. 2009. 
  • Dumont, Raeann. The Sky is Falling: Understanding and Coping with Phobias, Panic, and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders. WW Norton. 1996. 


  • Mueser, Kim. Coping with Schizophrenia: A Guide for Families. New Harbinger. 1994. 
  • Torrey, E Fuller. Surviving Schizophrenia: A Family Manual. Harper & Row. 6th Edition. 2013.

Self-Harm Behavior

  • Khemlani-Patel, Sony, Merry McVey-Noble & Fugen Neziroglu. When Your Child is Cutting: A Parent’s Guide to Helping Children Overcome Self-injury. New Harbinger. 2006. 
  • Levenkron, Steven. Cutting: Understanding and Overcoming Self-Mutilation. WW Norton. 1998.

Trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

  • Burke Harris, Nadine. The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-term Effects of Childhood Adversity. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. 2018.
  • Jain, Shali. The Unspeakable Mind: Stories Trauma and Healing from the Front Lines of PTSD Science. New York, NY: Harper, 2019.
  • Jensen, Frances E. with Amy Ellis Nutt. The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist’s Survival Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults. Harper. 2016.
  • Riera, Michael. Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers. Ten Speed Press. 2012.
  • Siegel, Daniel J. Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain. Tarcher Perigee, 2014.
  • Levine, Peter. Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma. North Atlantic Books. 1997. 
  • Matsakis, Aphrodite. I Can't Get Over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors. New Harbinger. 2nd Revised Edition. 1996. 
  • Naparstek, Belleruth. Invisible Heroes: Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal. Random House. 2004. 
  • Rothschild, Babette. The Body Remembers. WW Norton. 2000.
  • Van der Volk, Bessel. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing Trauma. Penguin. 2015.

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Mid-life Issues

  • Baar, Karen. For My Next Act: Women Scripting Life After 50. Rodale Press. 2004. 
  • Brehony, Kathleen. Awakening at Midlife. Riverhead Books. 1996. 
  • Gerzon, Mark. Listening to Midlife: Turning Your Crisis Into a Quest. Shambhala. 1996. 
  • Marston, Stephanie. If Not Now When: Reclaiming Ourselves at Midlife. Warner Books. 2001. 
  • Shellenbarger, Sue. Breaking Point: How Female Midlife Crisis is Transforming Today’s Women. Henry Holt. 2004.

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Young Children

  • Burke Harris, Nadine. The Deepest Well: Healing the long-term effects of childhood adversity. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2018.
  • Cohen, Lawrence J. Playful Parenting: An Exciting New Approach to Raising Children that Will Help You Nurture Close Connections, Solve Behavior Problems, and Encourage Confidence. Ballantine Books. 2001. 
  • Dinkmeyer, Don Sr., Gary McKay & Don Dinkmeyer, Jr. The Parent’s Handbook: Systematic Training for Effective Parenting. STEP Publishers. 2008. 
  • Faber, Adele, & E Mazlish. How to Talk So Kids will Listen and Listen So Kids will Talk. Scribner, Updated Edition. 2012. 
  • Faber, Adele, & E Mazlish. Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too. WW Norton. 2012. 
  • Gottman, John & Joan Declaire. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting. Simon & Schuster. 1997. Highly recommended 
  • Levine, Mel. The Myth of Laziness. Simon & Schuster. 2003. 
  • Phelan, Thomas. 1-2-3- Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting. Sourcebooks. 6th Edition. 2016. 
  • Seligman, Martin. The Optimistic Child: A Proven Program to Safeguard Children Against Depression and Build Lifelong Resilience. HarperCollins. Reprint Ed. 2007. 
  • Shure, Myrna. Raising a Thinking Child: Help Your Young Child to Resolve Everyday Conflicts and Get Along with Others. Pocket Books. 1994. 
  • Siegel, Daniel J, & M Hartzell. Parenting From the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive. TarcherPerigee. 10th Anniversary Edition. 2013.
  • Turecki, Stanley, & Leslie Tonner. The Difficult Child: Expanded and Revised Edition. Bantam Books. 2000. 
  • Wolf, Anthony. It's Not Fair: Jeremy Spencer's Parents Let Him Stay Up All Night! A Guide to the Tougher Parts of Parenting. Farrar, Straus & Giroux. 1996.

Helping Your Child with Friendships

  • Cooper, Scott. Sticks and Stones: 7 Ways Your Child Can Deal with Teasing, Conflict, and Other Hard Times. Times Books/Random House. 2000. 
  • Posey, Kate Cohen. How to Handle Bullies, Teasers, and Other Meanies: A Book that Takes the Nuisance out of Name Calling and other Nonsense. Rainbow Books. 1995. Older children can read this on their own; younger children will need an adult to go through it with them.
  • Thompson, Michael, Cathe Grace & Lawrence Cohen. Best Friends, Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children. Ballantine Books. 2001. 
  • Thompson, Michael, Lawrence J. Cohen & Catherine O’Neill Grace. Mom, They’re Teasing Me: Helping Your Child Solve Social Problems. Ballantine Books. 2002.

Adolescents and Young Adults (see Adolescence)

  • Adams, Jane. When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us: Letting go of Their Problems, Loving Them Anyway, and Getting on with Our Lives. New York: Free Press. 2003.
  • Ashworth, Trisha, & A Nobile. I Was a Really Good Mom Before I Had Kids: Reinventing Modern Motherhood. Chronicle Books. 2007.
  • Coburn, Karen Levin, & M L Treeger. Letting Go: A Parent’s Guide to Understanding the College Years. Harper Perennial. 6th Edition. 2016. 
  • Dinkmeyer, Don Sr., Gary McKay & Don Dinkmeyer, Jr. The Parent’s Handbook: Systematic Training for Effective Parenting. STEP Publishers. 2008. 
  • Fleming, Don. How to Stop the Battle with Your Teenager. Touchstone. Reprint Edition. 1993. 
  • Jensen, Frances E. with Amy Ellis Nutt. The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist’s Survival Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults. Harper, 2016.
  • Levine, Madeline. The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids. Harper Collins. 2006. 
  • Murphy, Timothy, & Loriann Oberlin. The Angry Child: Regaining Control When Your Child is Out of Control. Three Rivers Press. 2001. 
  • Panzarine, Susan. A Parent’s Guide to the Teen Years: Raising Your 11-to-14-Year-Old in the Age of Chat Rooms and Navel Rings. Checkmark Books. 2000.
  • Riera, Michael. Uncommon Sense for Parents of Teens. Ten Speed Press. 3rd Ed, 2012. 
  • Riera, Michael. Staying Connected to Your Teenager: How to Keep Them Talking to You and How to Hear What They’re Really Saying. Da Capo. Revised Ed. 2017. 
  • Sagarese, Margaret, & Charlene Giannetti. The Roller Coaster Years: Raising Your Child Through the Maddening Yet Magical Middle School Years. Broadway Books. 1997. 
  • Siegel, Daniel J. Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain. Tarcher Perigee, 2014.
  • Wittens, Jim. No More Nagging, Nit-Picking, and Nudging: A Guide to Motivating, Inspiring, and Influencing Kids Aged 10 to 18. Deer Crossing Press. 1991
  • Wolf, Anthony. Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall: A Parent’s Guide to the New Teenager. New York: Farrar, Straus & Giroux. Revised Edition. 2002.

Adult Children Dealing with Difficult Parents

  • Lawson, Christine Ann Lawson. Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationships paperback. Rowan & Littlefield. 2004. 
  • Roth, Kimberlee, Friedman, F, & Kreger, R. Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds and Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem paperback. New Harbinger. 2003.

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  • DeWyze, Jeannette & Allan Mallinger. Too Perfect: When Being in Control Gets Out of Control. Clarkson Potter. 1992. 
  • Elliott, Miriam, & Susan Meltsner. The Perfectionist Predicament: How to Stop Driving Yourself and Others Crazy. William Morrow. 1991.
  • Hendlin, Steven. When Good Enough is Never Enough: Escaping the Perfection Trap. William Morrow. 1991.

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Personal Growth

  • Brenner, Helene. I Know I’m in There Somewhere: A Woman’s Guide to Finding Her Inner Voice and Living a Life of Authenticity. Gotham Books. 2003. Highly recommended.
  • Greenspan, Miriam. Healing Through the Dark Emotions: The Wisdom of Grief, Fear, and Despair. Shambhala. 2003. Highly recommended.
  • Segal, Jeanne. Raising Your Emotional Intelligence: A Hands-On Program for Harnessing the Power of Your Instincts and Emotions. Henry Holt. 1997. 
  • Weiser Cornell, Ann. The Power of Focusing: A Practical Guide to Emotional Self-Healing. New Harbinger. 1996.

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  • Burka, Jane, & Lenora Yuen. Procrastination: Why You Do It, What to Do About It. Da Capo. 2nd Edition. 2008. 
  • Burns, David. The Feeling Good Handbook. Harper. Reprint Edition. 2008. Excellent chapters with good exercises on procrastination.
  • Fiore, Neil. The Now Habit: A Strategic Program for Overcoming Procrastination and Enjoying Guilt-Free Play. TarcherPerigee. Revised Edition. 2007. 
  • Roberts, Susan M. Living Without Procrastination: How to Stop Postponing Your Life. New Harbinger. 1995.

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  • Fay, Jennifer & Caren Adams. Free of the Shadows: Recovering from Sexual Violence. New Harbinger. 1989. 
  • Ledray, Linda. Recovering from Rape: Practical Advice on Overcoming the Trauma and Coping with Police, Hospitals, and the Courts – for the Survivors of Sexual Assault and their Families, Lovers and Friends. Henry Holt. 1994. 
  • Raine, Nancy Venable. After Silence: Rape & My Journey Back. Crown. 1998. A first-person account of surviving and recovering from rape; excellent.

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Dealing with Strains, Break-up, and Loss of Relationship

  • Ahrons, Constance R. The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart. William Morrow. Reprint Edition. 1995. 
  • Amodeo, John. Love and Betrayal: Broken Trust in Intimate Relationships. Ballantine Books. 1994. 
  • Fisher, Bruce. ReBuilding: When Your Relationship Ends. Impact. 4th Edition. 2016. Highly recommended 
  • Halpern, Howard. How to Break Your Addiction to a Person: When—and Why—Love Doesn’t Work. Bantam. 2004. 
  • Hayes, Christopher, Deborah Anderson & Melinda Blau. Our Turn: Women Who Triumph in the Face of Divorce. Gallery Books. Reprint Edition. 1994. Aimed at women over 40 who are going through divorce; how divorce can be a catalyst for self-discovery, change and growth.
  • Johnson, Sue. Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. New York: Little, Brown, Spark, 2008.
  • Kirschenbaum, Mira. Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step by Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship. Plume. 1997. 
  • Levine, Amir and Rachel S. E. Heller. Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love. TarcherPerigee. Reprint Edition. 2012.
  • McWilliams, Peter, Harold Bloomfield & Melba Colgrove. How to Survive the Loss of a Love. Prelude Press. 2006. 
  • Paleg, Kim, & M McKay. When Anger Hurts Your Relationship: 10 Simple Solutions for Couples Who Fight. New Harbinger. 2001. 
  • Swallow, Wendy. Breaking Apart: A Memoir of Divorce. Hyperion. 2001. 
  • Trafford, Abigail. Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life. William Morrow. 3rd Edition. 2014. 
  • Wolf, Anthony. Why Did You Have to Get a Divorce? And When Can I Get a Hamster? A Guide to Parenting Through Divorce. Noonday Press. 1998.

Rebuilding and Strengthening

  • Bader, Ellyn, & Peter Pearson. In Quest of the Mythical Mate: A Developmental Approach to Diagnosis and Treatment in Couples Therapy. Brunner-Mazel. 1988. Describes the developmental stages of marriage 
  • Bader, Ellyn, Peter Pearson & Judith Schwartz. Tell Me No Lies: How to Face the Truth and Build a Loving Marriage. St Martin’s Press. 2001.
  • Botton, Alain de. The Course of Love. New York: Simon and Schuster. 2017. 
  • Evans, Patricia. The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond. Adams Publishing. 3rd Edition. 2010. 
  • Gottman, John. Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last. Simon & Schuster. 1994. 
  • Gottman, John. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Harmony. Revised Edition. 2015. 
  • Gulner, Gregory. Long Distance Relationships: The Complete Guide. JF Milne Publications. 2003.
  • Halpern, Howard. Finally Getting It Right: From Addictive/Obsessive Relationships to Healthy Ones. Bantam. 1995. 
  • Hendrix, Harville. Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. Henry Holt. Revised Edition.2007. How and why we choose our partners, and how to heal relationship conflict.
  • Page, Susan. How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together: Breakthrough Strategies to Resolve Your Conflicts and Reignite Your Love. Broadway. 1998. 
  • Real, Terrence. How Can I Get Through to You: Reconnecting Men and Women. New York: Fireside. 2002. 
  • Spring, Janis. After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust when a Partner has Been Unfaithful. William Morrow. 2nd Edition. 2012. 
  • Spring, Janis A. Después de la infidelidad: Sanando el dolor y restableciendo la confianza cuando la pareja ha sido infiel (Spanish Edition). HarperCollins Español, 2015.
  • Spring, Janis Abrahms. How Can I Forgive You: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To. HarperCollins. 2004. Highly Recommended.
  • Weiner Davis, Michelle. The Sex-Starved Marriage: A Couple’s Guide to Boosting Their Marriage Libido. Simon & Schuster. 2003. 
  • Wile, Daniel. After the Honeymoon: How Conflict Can Improve Your Relationship. Daniel Wile Publisher. Revised Edition. 2008. An excellent book on how to improve communication in intimate relationships.

Sexuality and Sexual Issues in Relationships

  • Renshaw, Domeena. Seven Weeks to Better Sex. Westcom Press. 2003. 
  • Love, Patricia, & Jo Robinson. Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking. CreateSpace. 2012.
  • Weiner Davis, Michelle. The Sex-Starved Marriage: A Couple’s Guide to Boosting Their Marriage Libido. Simon & Schuster. 2003. 
  • Zilbergeld, Bernie. The New Male Sexuality: The Truth About Men, Sex, and Pleasure. Bantam. Revised, Subsequent Edition.1999.

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Self Care

Mindfulness / Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction

  • Chodron, Pema. The Wisdom of No Escape, and the Path of Loving Kindness. Shambhala, 2001.
  • Hanson, Rick. Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness. Harmony, 2018
  • Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life. Hachette. 10th Ed. 2005.
  • Nhat Hanh Thich. Peace is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life. Bantam. 1991. A simple explanation of Zen Buddhist techniques of meditation and awareness.

Compassion / Self-Compassion

  • Brown, Brené. The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to be and Embrace Who You Are. Hazelden Publishing. 2010.
  • Brown, Brené. Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. Random House. Reprint Edition. 2017.
  • Chodron, Pema. Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate Living. Shambala, 2001.
  • Neff, Kristin. Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. William Morrow. Reprint Edition. 2015.

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Self Esteem

  • McKay, Matthew, & Patrick Fanning. Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem. New Harbinger. 4th Edition.1987. 
  • McKay, Matthew, et al. The Self Esteem Companion: Simple Exercises to Help You Challenge Your Inner Critic and Celebrate Your Personal Strengths. New Harbinger. 1999. 
  • Sorensen, Marylyn. Breaking the Chain of Low Self-Esteem. Wolf Publishing. Revised Edition. 2010.

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Sexual Abuse: Adults Abused as Children

  • Bass, Ellen, & Laura Davis. The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. William Morrow. 20th Anniversary Edition. 2008. 
  • Gil, Eliana. Outgrowing the Pain: A Book for and About Adults Abused as Children. Dell. 1984. 
  • Hunter, Mic. Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse. Fawcett. 1991. 
  • Lew, Mike. Victims No Longer: Men Recovering From Sexual Child Abuse. Harper Perennial. 2nd Updated Edition. 2004.

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Sexual Harassment

  • Conley, Frances. Walking Out on the Boys. Farrar, Straus & Giroux. 1998. First person account of a doctor who filed a sexual harassment lawsuit against her colleagues.
  • Morris, Celia. Bearing Witness: Sexual Harassment and Beyond – Everywoman’s Story. Little Brown. 1994.

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Social Anxiety and Shyness

  • Berent, Jonathan. Beyond Shyness: How to Conquer Social Anxieties. Fireside Books. 1993. 
  • Johnson, David W. Reaching Out: Interpersonal Effectiveness and Self Actualization. Pearson. 11th Edition. 2012.  
  • Markway, Barbara, C. Alec Pollard, Teresa Flyn & Cheryl Carmin. Dying of Embarrassment: Help for Social Anxiety and Social Phobia. New Harbinger. 1992. A practical workbook with techniques for assessing your fears and working on them.
  • Zimbardo, Philip. Shyness: What It Is and What to Do About It. Da Capo. 1990.

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Spiritual Issues and Spiritual Confusion (See also Self-Care, Mindfulness)

  • Kornfield, Jack. A Path With Heart: A Guide Through the Perils and Promises of Spiritual Life. Bantam. 1993. 
  • Peck, Scott. The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth. Touchstone. Revised Edition. 2003. 
  • Salzberg, Sharon. Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness. Shambhala. 2002. 
  • Schwartz, Tony. What Really Matters: Searching for Wisdom in America. Bantam.1995. A New York Times journalist's conversations with leading psychologists, philosophers, physicians and scientists.

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  • Newman, Margaret. Stepfamily Realities: How to Overcome Difficulties and Have a Happy Family. New Harbinger. 1994. A practical guide to adjusting to all aspects of living in a stepfamily.
  • Visher, Emily, & John Visher. How to Win As a Stepfamily. Routledge. 2nd Ed 1991.
  • Wolf, Anthony. Why Did You Have to Get a Divorce? And When Can I Get a Hamster?: A Guide to Parenting Through Divorce. Noonday Press. 1998.

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Stress Reduction (see also Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction)

  • Borysenko, Joan. Minding the Body, Mending the Mind. Da Capo. Revised Ed 2007. 
  • Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. Bantam. Revised ed. 2013. Based on the principles of mindfulness and breathing, with particular emphasis on managing chronic pain.
  • Luskin, Frederic. Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness. Reprint Edition. HarperOne. 2003.
  • Luskin, Frederic. Perdonar es sanar (Forgive for Good). Spanish Edition. Norma S.A. Editorial, 2008.
  • Luskin, Frederic & Ken Pelletier. Stress Free For Good: 10 Scientifically Proven Life Skills for Health and Happiness. New York: HarperOne. Reprint Edition. 2005. 
  • O'Hara, Valerie. Five Weeks to Healing Stress: The Wellness Option. New Harbinger. 1996. An excellent workbook, with charts for recording progress.
  • Sapolsky, Robert. Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers. Holt. 3rd edition. 2004. An explanation of how stress affects the body and mind; based on scientific research.

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Time Management, Personal Organization and Clutter

  • Allen, David. Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity. Penguin. Revised Edition. 2015. 
  • Glovinsky, Cindy. Making Peace with the Things in Your Life: Why Your Papers, Books, Clothes, and Other Possessions Keep Overwhelming You—and What to Do About It. St Martin's Griffin. 2002. 
  • Morgenstern, Julie. When Organizing Isn’t Enough: SHED Your Stuff, Change Your Life. Fireside. 2008. 

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Workplace Issues and Career Change Stress

Conflict in the Workplace

  • Bramson, Robert. Coping with Difficult People: The Proven-Effective Battle Plan that has Helped Millions Deal with the Troublemakers in Their Lives at Home and at Work. Dell. 1988. 
  • Bridges, William. Managing Transitions: Making the Most of Change. Da Capo. 4th Edition. 2017. 
  • Fisher, Roger. Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In. Penguin. Updated, Revised Edition. 2011. 
  • Lynn, Adele B. In Search of Honor: Lessons from Workers on How to Build Trust. Bajon House Publishing. 1998. 
  • O'Hara, Valerie. Wellness at Work: Building Resilience to Job Stress. New Harbinger. 1995. A blueprint for taking charge of your worklife: identifying and managing stress, improving communications, developing support networks; includes a chapter that deals with work-stress issues that affect women.
  • Sutton, Robert. The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workforce and Surviving One That Isn’t. Business Plus. 2010.

Faculty and Tenure Issues

  • Bakken, Jeffrey & Cynthia Simpson. A Survival Guide for New Faculty Members: Outlining the Keys to Success for Promotion and Tenure. Charles C Thomas, Publishers. 2011.
  • Boice, Robert. The New Faculty Member. American Psychiatric Press. 2006. 
  • Boice, Robert. Advice for New Faculty Members. Pearson. 2000. 
  • Boice, Robert. Professors as Writers: A Self-Help Guide to Productive Writing. Allyn & Bacon. 2000. 
  • Caplan, Paula J. Lifting a Ton of Feathers: A Woman’s Guide to Surviving in the Academic World. University of Toronto Press. 2nd Edition. 1993. 
  • Coiner, Constance, & Diana George, eds. The Family Track: Keeping Your Faculties While you Mentor, Nurture, Teach, and Serve. University of Illinois Press. 1998. 
  • Dews, C.L. This Fine Place So Far From Home: Voices of Academics From the Working Class. Chicago: University of Illinois Press. 1998. 
  • Gulner, Gregory. Long Distance Relationships: The Complete Guide. JF Milne. 2004.
  • Hall, Donald. The Academic Self: An Owner’s Manual. Ohio State University Press. 2003. 
  • Lucas, Christopher J. New Faculty: A Practical Guide for Academic Beginners. Palgrave Macmillan. 2011.
  • Nelson,Cary. Will Teach for Food: Academic Labor in Crisis. Palgrave Macmillan. 2002. 
  • Snyder, Don. The Cliff Walk: A Job Lost and a Life Found. Back Bay Books. 1998. An English Professor is denied tenure and re-builds his life.
  • Tierney, William & Estela Bensimon. Promotion and Tenure: Community and Socialization in Academe. Little Brown & Co. 1998. 
  • Toth, Emily Ms. Mentor’s New and Ever More Impeccable Advice for Women and Men in Academia University of Pennsylvania Press, 2008. 
  • Twale, Darla,& Barbara DeLuca. Faculty Incivility: The Rise of the Academic Bully Culture and What to do About It. Jossey-Bass. 2008.


  • Alboher, Marci. The Encore Career Handbook: How to Make a Living and a Difference in the Second Half of Life. Workman Publishing. 2012.
  • Astor, Bart. AARP Roadmap for the Rest of Your Life: Smart Choices About Money, Health, Work, Lifestyle…and Pursuing Your Dreams. Wiley. 2013.
  • Bogan, David & Keith Davies. Avoid Retirement and Stay Alive: The New Retirement Revolution. McGraw-Hill Education. 2007.
  • Bolles, Richard. What Color is Your Parachute? A Practical Manual for Job-Hunters and Career-Changers. Ten Speed Press. 2018 Edition.
  • Carstensen, Laura. A Long Bright Future: Happiness, Health, and Financial Security in an Age of Increased Longevity. Public Affairs. 2011.
  • Cullinane, Jan. The Single Woman’s Guide to Retirement. Wiley. 2012.
  • Farrell, Chris. Unretirement: How Baby Boomers are Changing the Way We Think About Work, Community, and the Good Life. Bloomsbury Press. Reprint Ed. 2016.
  • Freudenheim, Ellen. Looking Forward: An Optimist’s Guide to Retirement. Harry N. Abrams. 2004.
  • Hannon, Kerry. What’s Next? Finding Your Passion and Your Dream Job in Your Forties, Fifties and Beyond. Berkley Publishing. Revised Edition. 2014.
  • Hinden, Stan. How to Retire Happy: The 12 Most Important Decisions You Must Make Before You Retire. McGraw-Hill Education. 2013.
  • Howells, John. Retirement on a Budget. Globe Pequot. 6th Edition. 2007.
  • Languirand, Mary & Robert Bornstein. How to Age in Place: Planning a Happy, Independent, and Financially Secure Retirement. Ten Speed Press. 2013.
  • Smith, Shuford. 101 Secrets for a Great Retirement: Practical, Inspirational & Fun Ideas for the Best Years of Your Life. McGraw-Hill Education. 2000.
  • Schlossberg, Nancy. Retire Smart, Retire Happy: Finding Your True Path In Life. APA. 2003.
  • Stone, Marika & Howard Stone. Too Young to Retire: 101 Ways to Start the Rest of Your life. Plume. 2004.
  • Strauch, Barbara. The Secret Life of the Grown-up Brain: The Surprising Talents of the Middle-Aged Mind. Viking, 2010.
  • Reynolds, Gretchen. The First 20 Minutes: Surprising Science Reveals How We Can Exercise Better, Train Smarter, Live Longer. Avery, 2013.
  • Vernon, Steve. Money for Life: Turn Your IRA and 401(K) Into a Lifetime Retirement Paycheck. Rest-of-Life Communications, 2012.
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  • Davenport, Leslie. All The Feelings Under The Sun: How to Deal with Climate Change. Magination Press, 2021. (Illustrated workbook written for youth and their parents.)
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  • Wray, Britt. Generation Dread: Finding Purpose in an Age of Climate Crisis. Penguin Random House. 2022.

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