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Resource List for Parenting a Gender-Expansive Child

This is a list of resources supplied by Maureen Johnston, LMFT, in support of her Noon Time Workshop discussion on Navigating the Complexities of Parenting a Gender-Expansive Child on August 24, 2023.

Resources

Local (to the south bay)

  • San Jose LGBTQ+ Youth Space
  • Billy de Frank LGBTQ+ Center
  • Project Outlet, Mt. View
  • UCSF Gender Clinic
  • Planned Parenthood, Santa Cruz
  • Stanford Pediatric Gender Clinic, Dr. Tandy Aye
  • Valley Medical Center, Dr. Mitch Gevelber
  • Santa Clara Trans Family Support
  • Trans Family Support Group – Santa Cruz County
  • PFLAG
  • Galaxy Community Circle (kids)

Websites/Social Media

  • Gender Spectrum
  • TransHealth.ucsf.edu
  • TransFamily Alliance
  • Trans Family Acceptance Project
  • LGBTQFamilyAcceptance.org
  • TransFamilySOS.org
  • RainbowFamiliesBayArea.org
  • OurFamily.org
  • StandWithTrans.org
  • SomosFamiliaBay.org (Spanish)
  • Gender Identity Awareness Network (GIAN)
  • Transgender Law Center
  • Center of Excellence for Transgender Health
  • Transgresspress.org/books
  • ItsPronouncedMetrosexual.com
  • National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE)
  • Katie Couric – Gender Revolution
  • Facebook page: Parents of Transgender Kids
  • Facebook page: Gendermom
  • YouTube: Health Across the Gender Spectrum (Maya Adams, Stanford)
  • YouTube: NoahFinnce
  • YouTube: Queer Kid Stuff
  • Instagram: Galaxy Community Circle
  • Instagram: TheTransTherapist

Books

Kids/Teens

  • Gender Born, Gender Made - Diane Ehrensaft
  • The Gender Creative Child – Diane Ehrensaft
  • The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals - Stephanie Brill & Rachel Pepper
  • The Transgender Teen – Stephanie Brill & Lisa Kenney
  • Transitions of the Heart - Rachel Pepper
  • Trans Forming Families: Real Stories about Transgendered Loved Ones - Mary Boenke
  • Helping Your Transgender Teen: A Guide for Parents - Irwin Krieger
  • Beyond Magenta: Transgender Teens Speak Out – Susan Kuklin
  • Our Trans Loved Ones: Questions and Answers for Parents, Families, and Friends of People who are Transgender and Gender Expansive – PFLAG
  • Gender Queer: A Memoir - Maia Kobabe
  • Supporting Transgender Autistic Youth and Adults:  A Guide for Professionals and Families – Finn Gratton
  • Transforming: The Bible and the Lives of Transgender Christians – Austen Hartke

Story Books

  • My Princess Boy – Cheryl Kilodavis
  • Tomboy – Barb Taylor
  • All I Want to be is Me – Phyllis Rothblatt
  • Roland Humphrey is Wearing a WHAT? – Eileen Kiernan-Johnson
  • William’s Doll – Charlotte Zolotow
  • 10,000 Dresses – Marcus Ewert
  • When Kayla was Kyle – Amy Fabrikant
  • But, I’m Not a Boy – Katie Leone
  • When Kathy is Keith – Wallace Wong
  • I am Jazz – Jessica Herthel & Jazz Jennings
  • Morris Micklewhite and the Tangerine Dress – Christine Baldacchino
  • Jacob’s New Dress – Sarah & Ian Hoffman
  • Jacob’s Room to Choose – Sarah & Ian Hoffman
  • Who are You?: The Kid’s Guide to Gender Identity – Brook Pessin-Whedbee
  • Introducing Teddy: A Story About Being Yourself – Jessica Walton
  • My Mommy is a Boy – Jason Martinez
  • Worm Loves Worm - J. J. Austrian and Mike Curato
  • George – Alex Gino (chapter book)
  • Lily and Dunkin – Donna Gephart (chapter book)
  • The Sign Around My Neck – Lucas Hasten (chapter book)
  • My Rainbow – Trinity and DeShanna Neal
  • It Feels Good to be Yourself: A Book About Gender Identity – Theresa Thorn
  • What are Your Words: A Book About Pronouns – Katherine Locke
  • They, She, He, Me: Free to Be! – Maya & Matthew
  • A Princess of Great Daring! – Tobi Hill-Meyer
  • When Aidan Became a Brother – Kyle Lukoff
  • From the stars in the sky to the fish in the sea – Kai Cheng Thom
  • You-ology: A Puberty Guide for Every Body – Melisa Holmes, Trish Hutchinson, & Kathryn Lowe
  • Every Body is a Rainbow: A Kid’s Guide to Bodies Across the Gender Spectrum – Caroline Carter
  • Pink is For Boys – Robb Pearlman

Adults

  • Becoming a Visible Man  -  Jamison Green
  • She’s Not There: A Life in Two Genders  -  Jennifer Finney Boylan
  • Stuck in the Middle with You: A Memoir of Parenting in Three Genders  -  Jennifer Finney Boylan
  • My Husband Betty  -  Helen Boyd
  • She’s Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband  -  Helen Boyd
  • Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation  -  Kate Bornstein & S. Bear Bergman
  • Stone Butch Blues  -  Leslie Feinberg
  • Gender Loving Care: A Guide to Counseling Gender-Variant Clients  -  Randi Ettner
  • Transitions of the Heart: Stories of Love, Struggle, and Acceptance  -  Mothers of Transgender and Gender Variant Children  -  Rachel Pepper
  • Trans Forming Families: Real Stories About Transgendered Loved Ones  -  Mary Boenke
  • Manifest: Transitional Wisdom on Male Privilege – Zander Keig
  • Guide to Being a Trans Ally* - Straight for Equality, PFLAG
  • Gender Queer: A Memoir – Maia Kobabe
  • Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments – Lucie Fielding

Gender

  • Pink Brain, Blue Brain: How Small Differences Grow in to Troublesome Gaps – and What We Can Do About It – Lise Eliot
  • Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference – Cordelia Fine
  • Women After All: Sex, Evolution, and the End of Male Supremacy – Melvin Konner